Updated: Mar 13
I've had no reason to feel unsafe in all the years I've visited Nigeria. There is a general issue on safety, in terms of kidnapping etc. Everyone is a target: especially the rich and famous, or your friends who don't like you. Otherwise, for the rest of us, it's business as usual. We move about, do our business, no shaking.
There is an added trust when you meet a fellow traveller from your country of origin. So for me, meeting someone in Nigeria, who lives in the UK, you feel at home.
I let my guards down based on this sentiment. I would later regret this.
On my recent trip to Owerri this Feb 2022, I was molested and pestered for sexual favours by another hotel resident who resides in the UK.
When this event was unfolding, it became a laughing matter and a topic for discussion amongst my friends who visited me every day. They couldn't believe that this man lived in the UK.
His behaviour was absurd.
After the breast fondling incident, which happened at the back of the car on our way back from dinner, Pa Mo, as we later nicknamed him, proceeded to bug me in the hotel at any given opportunity for sexual favours. He was begging me to come and keep him company in his bed.
"I am lonely".
The first time he blurted out that he was lonely was at dinner.
There was no dialogue, no conversation leading to the statement. No, I like you... No, how are you?... No, so what do you do for a living?... Nothing...
My first thought was that he was going through a divorce or his partner was deceased. I didn't get the assignment.
He then went on to tell me
"I am cold in bed".
I smiled and laughed as the assignment gradually dawned on me, realising that I was not the sharpest pencil in the box.
I had plenty to say, but I kept quiet. I was far away from the hotel and far away from home. Safety first, before irrational emotions.
"I like your style of woman".
This was after I had responded to his questions about my wedding rings, which were not a deterrent. Instead, it was a green light.
Pa Mo claimed to be 48 but looked nothing less than 68. I assured him on several occasions that he was in the right place to find a life partner.
He informed me that he was scared of hooking up with those available in town for fear of arranged kidnapping, extortion and death.
Apparently I was a safe option. Female, married lone traveller. Away from family. And he figured that the best thing I could do for myself was to shack up with a senior citizen.
Let me clap for yourself ...
The height of the harrassement, came in the early hours of Tuesday 1/3/2022 at 01.49 am; my phone rang and woke me up. It was pa Mo. I ignored the phone call and went back to sleep. At 02.49, there was a knock at the door. At point, I wasn't laughing. I was petrified. I called the reception for security personnel and was informed it was pa Mo knocking at my door. I politely told the receptionist to let him know that I was sleeping and I will speak with him in the morning.
How was I to know that pa Mo, was a pastor, married with adult female and male children.
Meanwhile aunty Mo, may have been doing fasting and prayers since he left on this trip.
How interesting indeed.
Nothing in life surprises me.
Wouldn't it be interesting if I visited his church and introduced myself to his wife. After all we are co-wives. Her husband has attacked my breast... And begged me to share his bed. We could have a fukcing 3some.
What do you think?